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Have you ever felt as if you were standing at the crossroads in your life, wondering which path to choose? I know I have.  Sometimes it can feel like a big adventure and sometimes it’s scares the begeezees out of us. Created by Pam Day Paths of Discovery Life Coaching

Here’s a picture I drew a few years ago that portrays some of my major life choices.  I call it “Standing At The Crossroads.” Behind each path you see in this picture there is a story– my  story. 

I won’t go into great detail here, but the path by the church that you see on the right represents the small minded, legalistic Christian world I lived in.
The path that goes into the forest
was the dark, hopeless, entangled mess I lived in.

The path by the tree and the castle is where I find myself living now.  The tree has the keys to the countless doors that are inside the castle – so many doors, so many opportunities.  And behind the opportunities lie our choices.  

I have noticed, depending on where I am in my journey, that I have 3 default scenarios that I will choose. Can you relate to them?

Scenario #1: I cautiously choose a key from the tree and go into the castle. I find the door, insert the key into the lock, open the door, look inside and see amazing opportunities. 

However, I choose to promptly close the door and run back outside to sit under the tree. This choice was too overwhelming or too scary to walk into and experience.

Scenario #2:  I sit under the tree and ignore the path that leads to the castle. As I sit I start to worry. Then I start to feel anxious and get all crazy in my head.

The keys are dangling in my face, but I push them aside because I feel confused and overwhelmed about which one to choose. Therefore I choose nothing. I sit and sit, get up walk around the tree and then sit some more. I can’t seem to make a choice so I become stressed, burned out and stuck.

Scenario #3:  I confidently choose the key, unlock the door, walk in and bask in the opportunity that is inside waiting for me. While I’m inside I learn new things, meet new people and experience new adventures. I re-align with my purpose and relationship with God. This choice leaves me feeling renewed and energized and moving forward. 

Choices, we have so many and yet sometimes we feel like we have none. It’s a strange paradox.

It all boils down to this… if we are going to walk fully in who we are created to be and do what we are created to do, we have to make a choice.  Sometimes the choice is challenging, scary and downright hard. Sometimes we need support and help to make this choice.

So, here’s your chance to tell us what scenario or what path you have been on lately. Perhaps you have no trouble sharing where you are or maybe it feels scary and uncomfortable.

Who knows perhaps choosing to comment will empower you on the path you are on, and/or propel you towards the path you want to be on. Asking you to step more fully into who you are and out of your comfort zone is what I do and I know you can do it!

Here’s your chance. Confidently grab the key and write your comment below about what scenario or path you find yourself on right now.  Whoo Ahh!

Till next time,


Pam Day is owner/founder of Paths of Discovery Life Coaching.  She is committed to helping you transform your life through life coaching and spiritual direction.  Her passion is to inspire you to wake up to your life! Step out of burn out and infuse each day with new purpose. Discover who God has created you to be and begin pursuing the dream He has created you to do.

Read more about how coaching and spiritual direction can help you find your way back onto your path at- oh and while you are there grab your free copy of the Tolerations Discovery Tool. 




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Handies Peak

If you have ever climbed one of the majestic 14,000 foot mountains here in Colorado you know what an amazing and challenging experience it is. Several years ago I climbed Handies Peak in southern Colorado. I actually climbed it twice. Here I am with my husband Brian just inches from the top. What a view!

When you climb a 14er you have to get a very early start to your day. Why? Rain and lightning in the afternoon. It is a bit frightening to experience lightning when you are at 14,000 feet.

Then there’s the issue of what time of year to go. Here in Colorado we only have a small window of opportunity to climb. Typically it is approximately one month in the summer. Why? Snow, lots of snow. I have trekked through snow fields while climbing these mountains and it is sometimes impossible to find the trail. The challenges sometimes leave you feeling a bit disconcerted about why in the heck you are even on the mountain in the first place!

However, when you get to the top, you know exactly why you accepted the challenge. The view is amazing and the feeling of accomplishment is huge!

Do you feel a metaphor coming on? You guessed it right! I’m telling you this story because I am thinking about the New Year – 2014. I’m thinking about what new heights I am asking God to take me to. I want to make 2014 a year to climb high!

How about you? Are you ready to give yourself permission to take a window of time in your life to climb to new heights? Are you ready to brave the rain, lightning and snow – if it comes?

If your answer is yes or even a maybe, then I am offering you an opportunity to put action to your words. In January 2014, I am starting The 14ers Club ~ Reaching to New Heights in Your Life. Below are a few things you will get from begin involved in this club. However, there is much more to come!

  • An opportunity take your “big dream” off the shelf. You know, that dream you stuck on the shelf in the back of the closet a year or more ago? Just think what it would be like if you took it out, dusted it off and began putting intention towards it! Are you getting excited? I am!
  • An opportunity to listen and learn more about what God has in store for you to make His dream for your life a reality.
  • An opportunity to share that dream in a safe environment. If you have never belonged to a coaching group/club before, you will be amazed at the level of support, accountability and wisdom you will be able to offer and take away.
  • An opportunity to get professional coaching from me. Aside from me being your biggest fan, I will coach you in putting accountability, intention, strategy and action steps to making your dream become a reality.

Okay, I can hear some of you saying, “This sounds great Pam, but I don’t have a big dream.” No worries! I will help you discover that dream or goal! There is so much more I will share that with you in the coming weeks. For now I am simply asking this…

  •  Does this idea stir some excitement in you?
  •  Are you willing to give yourself permission to take a window of time to commit to climbing higher?
  •  Are you willing to give your best during the easy part and the challenging part of the climb?
  •  Are you willing to support your fellow climbers through the easy and challenging part of their climb?
  •  Are you willing to do the training needed to get ready for the climb?
  •  Are you willing to play and have FUN on this climb?

If you are interested, I am asking you to contact me as soon as you can. There is no obligation at this point. I’m not going to hunt you down when the group starts.

I need to know your interest because this club is kind of an “elite” club. There are a limited number of spaces. Why? Because of the amazing value and results you will get from this particular type of small group. This club is not for the faint of heart. It will take courage, commitment and stamina, just like climbing that mountain. Just think what it will be like when you reach the top! You will be amazed at the view!

Let me know your interest by clicking on the clipboard below or follow this link. http://tinyurl.com/ln5krxk

This will put you on the “interested list.” If you have questions please feel free to send me an email. Again, there is no obligation and your contact information is safe with me. I look forward to climbing high with you in the New Year!Sign Up for The 14ers Club - Reaching to New Heights in Your LIfeBlessings,



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Hello again!  I’ve not fallen off the face of the earth – yet.  Since my last post  I have been to Nashville and back. We had a great time and met a lot of amazing, talented people. If you want to read more about it and hear some of the songs that Brian (my husband) performed, here is the link and below is one of videos.  Check out his other videos here.  Long story short, he is now more pumped than ever to write and perform and is making the intention to do so. Yay!

I am back in the swing of “real life,” which is going swimmingly.  Isn’t that what Cogsworth the enchanted clock says on Beauty and the Beast?   I’ve been really blessed with my current and new coaching clients and feel grateful for the privilege of watching how God is transforming their lives.

You may be wondering about the mission trip to Nepal that I mentioned in my last post.  We have been asked to come lead the music for an annual mission’s conference in Pokhara Nepal.  After many fears coming up on my part, we have officially made the decision to go for it.  Geez, when did I turn into being such a scardy cat!

God has already provided one airline ticket through the gifts of some amazing people.  The funny thing is, this was provided even before we had officially decided to go.  You can’t tell me that was just a coincidence!  We are in the process of trying to find additional service work (i.e. help in schools, orphanages, farms etc.) after the conference is over.  We aren’t sure what this will look like yet, but I am so grateful for the opportunity.  This trip is something that we feel confident that God is asking us to do and even though fear steps in the way ever so often, I am very excited about walking this path.  I will keep you posted on further details and updates.

Pokhara Nepal

View of the mountains in Pokhara Nepal

I’d like to say a bit more about those fears I mentioned earlier.  Is it just me or do you ever have fear about opportunities that feel like they are bigger than you can comprehend or imagine?  This is what this trip feels like to me.  Actually that is what my life feels like right now.  I get all chaotic in my head and try to control everything.

It’s that catastrophe thinking, you know the kind.  It’s that thing, that voice, those thoughts, that sneak in and take over our mind.  It tells us, oh my gosh, you can’t really do this or be that.  What if x ,y or z happens?  What will so and so think? That person is so irritating; they just don’t understand what I need!  From my experience if this kind of fear is not caught in time, it will shut down our desire to take hold of the opportunity.  A telltale sign that it’s fear is when you realize that the focus has shifted from others to being ALL ABOUT YOU.

So how do we stop it, how do we catch it in the act?  Well, I needed help even though I consciously wasn’t’ asking for it.  God gave me some “kick in the butt – words” from dear friends.  They told me that I wasn’t seeing things clearly and that I needed to let go of trying to control everything. They told me that I needed to refocus on God and what He wants to accomplish and how this opportunity can be used for others.  Surrender!  All will be provided.  Of course I really didn’t want to hear all that, but thank God they were willing to speak into my life!

In a word, don’t laugh, I’m in the process once AGAIN of letting go (surrendering) and trusting.  Hasn’t that been the theme of my life for the past year?  Holy buckets! (as my friend would say).  Honestly though, I’m grateful.  And I’m grateful to you that you are willing to read my musings, ponderings, process, insights, and sometimes all out craziness.

I’ll keep you updated about the mission trip.  Brian and I will be doing a fundraising gig soon and Brian will have his demo cd’s there if you’d like one.

One other thing that you might be interested in especially during what can sometimes be a stressful Holiday Season, is a tool I’ve created called The Meditation Garden.  Believe it or not, meditation has helped me tremendously with that “fear” issue and has helped me hear from God in a way I never have before.  If you’d like to know more about it, you can take a look at it here.

Thank you for reading and riding this ride with me!


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