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Have you every heard the saying, “it takes approximately 21 days to change a habit?”

Do you believe it? Whether you do or you don’t you may find this article in the Huffington Post interesting and perhaps it will give you a different perspective.

It states, “on average, it takes more than two months before a new behavior becomes automatic — 66 days to be exact. And how long it takes a new habit to form can vary widely depending on the behavior, the person, and the circumstances.

In other words, if you want to set your expectations appropriately, the truth is that it will probably take you anywhere from two months to eight months to build a new behavior into your life — not 21 days.

Interestingly, the researchers also found that “missing one opportunity to perform the behavior did not materially affect the habit formation process.” In other words, it doesn’t matter if you mess up every now and then. Building better habits is not an all-or-nothing process.” You can read the rest of the article here.

Hmmm, makes sense to me. No wonder I can give up sugar for a month and think I’ve kicked it, only to fall back into it’s sugary trap so easily!

I think this article serves as a great reminder for us, especially this time of year. You may not be a New Year’s resolution kind of person, I know I’m not. However, I do enjoy starting the New Year trying something new and inspiring.

You may remember I wrote a post last year about this time entitled “What’s Your Word for the Year?” My Word last year was Intentional. I found that about half way through the year my Word sort of fell off my radar screen. How about you? How did you do with your Word throughout the whole year?

So, this year I’m choosing the Word RENEW. And I’m incorporating a few words to go along with it. Fun, Lighthearted, and Joy. AND, to help keep me inspired throughout the 66 days and beyond, I’ve joined an Art Journaling Group.

Here’s a picture of the beginning stages of the cover of my journal. I’ll post the finished project soon.

What Word did you choose this year? How are you planning to stay inspired throughout your 66 days and beyond?

I would love to hear your ideas. Comment below or go to my facebook page and comment.

Blessings to you this year! I look forward to hearing how God is showing up in your life!

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Blog post 2-2-14

God Made Me to Be a Somebody Destined to Achieve Great Things!

Hmmm… What are your first thoughts when you read this statement?

This statement is from the book The Dream Giver by Bruce Wilkinson.  Mr. Wilkinson challenges us to pursue the big dream that The Dream Giver has placed in our hearts.

I’ve been working with this statement in my own life the past few weeks.  Hence the creation of this bookmark in the picture above.  I started out strong, loving the colors and design effects of the background. The first two lines – God Made Me to Be A – were just how I envisioned, straight and bold.

Then I got to the word Somebody.  Hmmm, feeling a little less strong now.  I wanted this word to be a bit different from the rest. Interestingly, I think I unconsciously made it this way because that is so much of how I roll – just a little differently.

As I pressed on, the words destined to achieve – got a bit shaky and wonky.  I think this is telling about how I feel about God using me to achieve great things for Him.  I feel a bit shaky about what this might look like and get all wonky in my head.

That wonkiness is what I call “limiting thoughts” going round and round in my brain.  Thoughts like “Yeah right, seriously? God use me to do great things for Him? My husband calls this “stinkin thinkin” and even wrote a song about it. I know, I know, “way to put in a little plug for Brian.”

I ended up fairly strong though with the words Great Things, albeit a little off kilter. Hey, I’m okay with that!

After all my deep analysis about this silly little tag, I’ve decided to look at this statement the way I believe God sees it.  I’m guessing He could have said this same statement to Moses, Abraham, Paul, Peter – the list could go on.

Insert Darth Vader’s voice here, “Moses, I have created you to be a Somebody, destined to achieve great things.” Moses had the same reactions we have, “Seriously? Do you remember who you are talking to God?  Me a Nobody?”  But in the end look how God used Moses for crying out loud!

Just think if we were to really allow this statement to soak deep into our souls. There is no telling what God would do through us to make an impact on the world for Him.   If you have been reading my blogs for very long, you know I always invite you to do a little coaching with me.  So here’s your chance to take this statement and play the “what if” game.

  • What if you believed that God created you to be a Somebody and has given you a dream to pursue?
  • What if you believed that your dream could achieve great things for Him?
  • What if 2014 was your year to pursue your big dream?  How would your life be different?

If you are ready to take your answers a step further I invite you to check out the 14ers Club – Reaching to New Heights in Your Life.  The courageous climbers that gathered in January are going strong and we are having a blast!

New groups are forming again this month! We will band together for a journey up our metaphorical 14er and explore the dream that God has given each of us.  If you are interested in knowing the details just click HERE or click the clip board below.  Easy peasy!

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Happy Climbing!

Pam

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Last week’s blog was entitled What’s Your Word for 2014.  Since then, several people have shared their Word. Here are just a few… Initiative, Commitment, Peace, Kneel, Focus, Finding my true purpose, Living life in full color, I could go on and on.  All amazing Words!  Great job friends!

I am greatly enjoying seeing how God is showing up in my life as I put my Word – INTENTIONAL – into action.  I am beginning to see changes even in the smallest things.  For instance, for years now I have been threatening to change banks because the one I have been with grates on my nerves every time I go in it!  I didn’t realize until I actually got this dumb little task done, how much energy it was taking from my Energy Cup. Free E-Workbook

Granted, I’m sure God could really care less about what bank I decide to use, but He does care about where my time and energy are spent.  Why? Because the more energy that is spent on things that don’t really matter the less energy I have to focus on a deeper relationship with Him.

Now that you have chosen your Word, I’m curious, what changes do you see in your daily routines, relationships, career, and Spiritual life?
If you are not seeing how God is using your Word to make changes in your life yet, you may find the following tips helpful.

  1. Ask God to remind you of your Word in everything you do. Then write about how He did this at the end of each day.
  2. Write your Word and catchphrase (if you have one) on a large piece of paper. For you creative types, draw it, paint it, or write a song about it!  Put this in a place where you will see it every day.
  3. Start with something small (like my bank example) and apply your Word.  If warranted, do it every day for one week. Take time after the week is over to notice the changes it has made.  Tweak it where you need to and press onward!

On the other hand, perhaps you have been struggling to choose your Word.  If so, below are a few things you may want to consider. What is My Word for 2014?

Talk to God about it and notice what comes to mind as you talk to Him.

  • Are you are struggling to pick just one Word? If this is the case – great! Try putting your Words together to form a quote, mantra, prayer or picture. Think outside the box!
  • How will your life and thought process be different if you had a Word? Try envisioning the best scenario you can imagine.  Envision the benefits you will get from this Word.
  • Are you procrastinating on choosing a Word?  If so, why?  (Note: Many times procrastination on a regular basis means there may be an underlying fear needing to be addressed.)
  • What, if any, fears or concerns come up when you think about choosing a Word? (I.E. “If I choose, then I am afraid I will be boxed in. That makes me concerned because I don’t want to give up or fail.”)
  • What, if any, limiting beliefs (thoughts that keep you stuck or limit your potential) come up when you think about choosing a Word?  (I.E.” I don’t really deserve a Word that will help me move forward in 2014.  I failed miserably in 2013, so why even try?”)
  • What would happen if you just decided to just choose, and then had some fun with your Word?

If you are still struggling after working through these questions, you may be at a “stuck” place in your life.  I can help you get “unstuck” through coaching if you are ready to jump in with both feet and move forward.  All you have to do is take that first step by making the decision to go for it!  Together we will get you back onto the path that God has waiting for you in 2014.
Till next time…

Blessings, Pam

 

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Here we are, approaching the first full week of 2014.  As I get back into the groove after the holiday season, I wonder how this year will be different.  I am not one for New Year’s resolutions, but I do like the idea of choosing a word, a word to pursue, a word to help remind me of what I want to focus on in my life this year.

Don’t worry, I’m not a person to ask you the tough questions and not ask them of myself! So here it is for all to see, my word  for 2014. ~ INTENTIONAL ~ For me, intentional means thinking and doing what I believe God wants me to do with focus and purpose. I’m using it for all areas of my life, Spiritual, marriage, relationships, career, health etc.  Word for 2014
To help me with my word, I am adding a catchphrase ~ WHAT I DO NOW WILL HELP CREATE MY FUTURE. The future can mean 10 minutes from now or 10 years from now. I realize we cannot totally control our future, but we can control our choices and decisions right now. This concept has helped me tremendously over the years, and I think it goes really well with my word  for 2014.

Here are a few examples……

Spiritual – I am going to be more intentional about spending time in meditation and prayer. Think about my catchphrase what I do now will help create my future. If I choose to focus on this now, my relationship with God will grow deeper in the future.

Health – I am going to be more intentional about eating for a healthy lifestyle. How? When I grab that handful of Oreo cookies, (oh how I love Oreo’s) instead of shoving them into my mouth without thinking, I will think about my catchphrase what I do now will help create my future. This will cause me to pause and focus on the purpose of the desired outcome for healthy eating.

You get the idea.

Now it’s your turn. If you were to give this this idea some thought, what would your word be?  What is the first word that pops into your mind?

If you think about who God has created you to be and how He has designed you, what word pops into your mind?

If you think about what you want your life to look like this year, what word pops into your mind?

Maybe you want a catchphrase, maybe you don’t.  Choose what works best for you.  I would love to hear your word if you would like to share.  Who knows, perhaps the simple act of sharing it will help you or perhaps it will help encourage someone else.

Thanks for reading.  Cheers!
Pam   

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Handies Peak

If you have ever climbed one of the majestic 14,000 foot mountains here in Colorado you know what an amazing and challenging experience it is. Several years ago I climbed Handies Peak in southern Colorado. I actually climbed it twice. Here I am with my husband Brian just inches from the top. What a view!

When you climb a 14er you have to get a very early start to your day. Why? Rain and lightning in the afternoon. It is a bit frightening to experience lightning when you are at 14,000 feet.

Then there’s the issue of what time of year to go. Here in Colorado we only have a small window of opportunity to climb. Typically it is approximately one month in the summer. Why? Snow, lots of snow. I have trekked through snow fields while climbing these mountains and it is sometimes impossible to find the trail. The challenges sometimes leave you feeling a bit disconcerted about why in the heck you are even on the mountain in the first place!

However, when you get to the top, you know exactly why you accepted the challenge. The view is amazing and the feeling of accomplishment is huge!

Do you feel a metaphor coming on? You guessed it right! I’m telling you this story because I am thinking about the New Year – 2014. I’m thinking about what new heights I am asking God to take me to. I want to make 2014 a year to climb high!

How about you? Are you ready to give yourself permission to take a window of time in your life to climb to new heights? Are you ready to brave the rain, lightning and snow – if it comes?

If your answer is yes or even a maybe, then I am offering you an opportunity to put action to your words. In January 2014, I am starting The 14ers Club ~ Reaching to New Heights in Your Life. Below are a few things you will get from begin involved in this club. However, there is much more to come!

  • An opportunity take your “big dream” off the shelf. You know, that dream you stuck on the shelf in the back of the closet a year or more ago? Just think what it would be like if you took it out, dusted it off and began putting intention towards it! Are you getting excited? I am!
  • An opportunity to listen and learn more about what God has in store for you to make His dream for your life a reality.
  • An opportunity to share that dream in a safe environment. If you have never belonged to a coaching group/club before, you will be amazed at the level of support, accountability and wisdom you will be able to offer and take away.
  • An opportunity to get professional coaching from me. Aside from me being your biggest fan, I will coach you in putting accountability, intention, strategy and action steps to making your dream become a reality.

Okay, I can hear some of you saying, “This sounds great Pam, but I don’t have a big dream.” No worries! I will help you discover that dream or goal! There is so much more I will share that with you in the coming weeks. For now I am simply asking this…

  •  Does this idea stir some excitement in you?
  •  Are you willing to give yourself permission to take a window of time to commit to climbing higher?
  •  Are you willing to give your best during the easy part and the challenging part of the climb?
  •  Are you willing to support your fellow climbers through the easy and challenging part of their climb?
  •  Are you willing to do the training needed to get ready for the climb?
  •  Are you willing to play and have FUN on this climb?

If you are interested, I am asking you to contact me as soon as you can. There is no obligation at this point. I’m not going to hunt you down when the group starts.

I need to know your interest because this club is kind of an “elite” club. There are a limited number of spaces. Why? Because of the amazing value and results you will get from this particular type of small group. This club is not for the faint of heart. It will take courage, commitment and stamina, just like climbing that mountain. Just think what it will be like when you reach the top! You will be amazed at the view!

Let me know your interest by clicking on the clipboard below or follow this link. http://tinyurl.com/ln5krxk

This will put you on the “interested list.” If you have questions please feel free to send me an email. Again, there is no obligation and your contact information is safe with me. I look forward to climbing high with you in the New Year!Sign Up for The 14ers Club - Reaching to New Heights in Your LIfeBlessings,

Pam

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