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I haven’t blogged in a while.  Maybe you have noticed, or maybe you haven’t. My focus has been elsewhere this spring and summer.  Opportunities for new adventures seem to be popping up around every corner.  If you have been following Brian’s (my husband’s) blog On the road again you probably already know a little about the adventures I am referring to.

If you aren’t following his blog, here’s the short version.  He and I are going on Tour for 2 months this fall.  As if going across the world to Nepal in February wasn’t enough of a faith builder, we are now asking for more!  We will be heading to the Midwest and south sharing music that Brian has written and our story.

Am I excited?  Yes!  Am I grateful for the opportunity?  Yes!  Am I learning new things? Oh yeah.

Why are we telling our story?  I don’t have an answer that really makes sense other than -we feel prompted to.  God has given us experiences in our lives, the good, bad and the ugly,  (don’t worry it won’t be too gory) and He is asking us to share them with others.  Why?  We don’t know other than He is asking. What we DO know is that He has a plan for it.  Our hope is that it will offer hope and encouragement to people’s lives.

Does it feel comfortable?  Heck no.  I get nervous every time I get in front of people to sing and play keys or djembe.   I get nervous when I speak in front of people.  I know, this is just my ego trying to take over.

I feel uncomfortable when I think about the what if’s.  You know those things that come up that are clearly out of your control, and there is really no way to figure them out but you try anyway? For example, what if this Tour is a disaster or failure?   What will happen if we don’t get enough bookings?  Will we have work when we get home?  I could go on, but you get the idea.

So what’s the answer?  I know it sounds churchy, & cliché but honestly it’s the ONLY answer I have ever personally experienced that works.  Trust God, let go, trust God, let go, repeat, repeat, repeat.  I could never plan enough, have all my ducks in a row enough or have all my I’s dotted and T’s crossed enough.  Why?  Because God doesn’t need me to do any of it, He will take care of it all when & if I allow Him to.  That’s what faith is, trusting in what I can’t see.

I heard a saying one time that has stuck with me.  Get comfortable in the uncomfortable.  If we want our lives to expand and if we want to live “fully alive” in God’s design we have to get used to feeling uncomfortable.  Some people say we are nuts.  That’s ok, we kind of are.

So where’s the evidence of this Trust?  How is God showing up?  Below are just a few of the things that He  has done already and I know we haven’t even scratched the surface yet.

  • Sixteen concerts booked to date.
  • Provision of a truck and trailer to live in while we are on the road.
  • Funds coming in from out of the blue to help with trip expenses.  Note:  We have not asked anyone but God to provide the funds we need to do this Tour.
  • Four people hosting practice concerts before we leave.
  • Inspiration for 2 new songs being written by Brian.
  • Encouragement that goes beyond words from people we hardly know.
  • Provision for caretakers for our house is in the works.
  • Plenty of work right now for Brian in remodeling and myself in life coaching and cosmetology.
  • Healing for a friend who has cancer.

That’s what Faith can do!  Here’s a song that says it well.  Enjoy.  Till next time…



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I saw, “Watch for God” on a wristband that my friend was wearing today.  A few weeks ago, a client told me that he has posted a big note on his bulletin board that said, “Look for God.”  I read snippets of a journal entry this afternoon on “Finding God, when He seems to be hiding.”  

What do you think would happen if we read that poster each day, looked at our wristband throughout the day and truly believed that God doesn’t hide from us, even when it feels like it?  What if we mindfully looked for and recognized God in every person, and every situation throughout the day?  What do you think would happen to our outlook, our attitude, and our faith? 

Do you ever wonder if perhaps God reveals Himself in a greater way, if we will consciously raise our awareness of Him?  If we will persistently seek Him?  If we will intentionally choose to see Him in all areas of our lives? 

Honestly, I have felt like God was hiding. Other times I felt He was there in Full Color. It felt extreme, on two ends of the spectrum. I didn’t have balance, a continual sense of fullness of His Spirit. 

This used to bother me. It felt as if God’s presence, His involvement in my life, was based on my behavior. Was I doing something wrong or right?  Do you ever feel that way?  

The good news is, my Spiritual journey has brought me to a place of believing that God is more interested in building my character and evolving my life, than my list of do’s and don’ts, my wrongs or my rights.

I sometimes think God looks at me with compassion and chuckles while saying, “Why do you make things so hard, you really don’t get it do you?  You don’t get that I unconditionally love you no matter what you’ve done, or are doing. You are My child, My creation.  My presence is always with you. You will experience My power in your life if you will continue to let go, grow, and trust that I am continually working all things for good.  Sometimes My work is blatantly obvious, sometimes it’s harder to see because I’m working behind the scenes. Always Look for me, Watch for Me and Follow Me, and your life will continually be an amazing adventure if you choose it.”

 As always, I look forward to hearing your story.



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Facing my FearsI’m sitting hear with my glass of wine, pondering the Spiritual lessons I’ve been learning and putting into practice.  I ask myself, whats next?  Now seems like the appropriate time to bring out the big guns. The lesson on moving closer to our purpose often time requires facing our fears and opening up to trust. (gulp)  That must be why wine was in order tonight.  Just kidding! 

Ahhh, the next level of challenge…the process of Facing Fears, identifying them, walking through them and finally letting them go.  I’m talking about the kinds of fears that are mostly in our thoughts, our perceptions, our judgments. You know what I’m referring to…the kinds of fears that run our lives and keep us paralyzed from moving forward towards our life’s purpose/s.  

There’s the rub, living a life of purpose many times requires us to face our fears and what does facing our fears require?  Trust.  Trusting that if we call those fears out onto the carpet, and recognize them for what they are, we won’t fall apart, nor will our world fall apart.  Trusting that if we identify our fears, we have the opportunity to make a choice, let them go or continue living with them.  

For me, the trick is to be mindful about the choices I am making regarding my fears.  Have my fears become so intimidating, that I have become desensitized or shut down?  Have I chosen to be in denial and play the victim role?  On the other hand, have I become aware of the fear but know the time is not right to let it go, so for now, I choose to continue living with it?  On the other side of the coin, is the time right to choose to let my fear go?  If so be ready, change is on it’s way and my life is going to begin to take on a different form. Sound exciting?  I think so! 

So, how do we identify our fears?  Even though we are all unique, I believe we experience similar kinds of fears.  They may sound good on the surface, but when we take a deeper look at them we realize they are keep us stuck and hinder us from experiencing God’s freedom and purpose.  Here are a just a few I’ve used, see if you recognize any of them in your life. 

I have to be successful. ~ In Other Words ~ I’m afraid to fail. 

If I can’t jump in with both feet, I’m not going to jump in at all.  ~ In Other Words ~ I’m afraid I won’t do it perfectly. 

I won’t make enough money. ~In Other Words ~ I’m afraid and don’t trust that God will provide. 

Other people will think I’m crazy and irresponsible.  ~In Other Words ~ I am afraid and hold too much value on what other people they think. 

I might get hurt (emotionally) ~ In Other Words ~ I’m afraid because I’ve been hurt in the past and I’m gun-shy, so I’m not going to chance it again. 

I might look stupid. ~ In Other Words ~ I’m afraid of being vulnerable. 

I have to stay “busy.”  ~ In  Other Words ~  My self-worth, self-esteem is wrapped up in how much I can pack into a day.  I’m afraid what my life might look like without all the busyness. 

So, how do we walk through our fears and break the chains that are holding us down?  How do we experience freedom to explore and discover God’s purpose/s in our lives?  For me it is a process, one stepping stone at a time.  

Stepping stone #1 – Become aware of the fear and identify it. Be mindful of our thoughts, our words, our perspective.  Remember that we have options, we may need to ask for help in order to see them clearly.  Open ourselves up to the idea of being willing and to trust.

Stepping stone #2 – Change our mindset or perception of the fear and the “what if’s.”  Check out this article for a different perspective on the “what if’s.”   Trust that God is working behind the scenes. 

Jeremiah 29:11  “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” 

Stepping stone #3 – Talk to God and ask for guidance.  If it’s time to move forward, it may require taking an action step. Sometimes that action step begins with surrendering, holding out hope, trusting, and sometimes physically doing something.  Get ready because many times the action steps may feel uncomfortable.  Remember Santosha 

Stepping stone #4 – Follow through with the action step/s.  Ask God for strength and guidance.  Ask others for support. 

Stepping stone #5 –  Keep your eyes and heart open, and watch how God works as He break the chains of fear in your life.  Tell someone else about your experience and offer to support them through their process.  Get ready; when you experience this kind of freedom, you will gain more clarity about your purpose/s and experience more Joy in your life. 

How does this topic resonate with your story?

Thank you in advance for sharing. 



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I began Yoga classes a few weeks ago.  It’s amazing & challenging & yes, I amSantosha sore!  Thanks Liz  for awesome classes on Tuesdays.  In our first class Liz taught us about Santosha, the Sanskrit word for Contentment, the second of the five niyamas, or observances. Here’s a little more on the subject if you are interested.

A succinct definition of Santosha is, being content with our actions, what we have, where we are, who we are and with one another. 

I’m grateful to be learning about Santosha, as it connects so well with what God has been teaching me over that past several months.  And, because I am sometimes not feeling so content in some of these yoga positions!  However, as I breathe through the discontentment and focus on being content in the position, I actually begin to feel more comfortable.  

It’s interesting to watch how the many layers of this practice, Santosha, come into play.  Just when I think I somewhat understand and find peace in one area of my life, another area of learning pops up.  The most recent lesson for me is in the area of being content with who I am.  I’m not talking about outward appearances, such as looks, body image or personality.  I’m talking about being unconventional, which sometimes leave me feeling as though I don’t fit in.  Do you ever feel this way? 

I’ve spent a big piece of my life “conforming,” being forced to stay “in the box”.  From outward appearance, to what to think, to what to believe, to how to act…  But thank God, He has shown me that I am uniquely and wonderfully designed.  And guess what?  I’m not the only one, we all are uniquely and wonderfully designed.  That means we get the opportunity to live fully in who we are.  And if we don’t feel like we “fit in,” that is perfect!  We can choose to be content, in a discontent world, because we each have unique purposes for being on this earth.  

So, my mantra for this area of my life is… Embrace it when I feel as though I don’t fit.  Embrace it when I am triggered by my past, my baggage of “conformity.”  Be grateful and talk to God about how He is working in my life and releasing me from the chains that sometimes drag me down.  Because we all know what happens when the chains are broken, we find more freedom! 

Isn’t it cool to see where God’s Truth shows up when we are mindful to seek Him in all things?

What area of your life is God teaching you Santosha? 

What is your mantra for embracing and being grateful in this area?

I invite you to share your story when the opportunity arises. Till next time…



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We live in a fast pace world where waiting is not well tolerated. I’ve even felt guilty when asked, “what did you do today” and I was not able to come up with a long list of things that filled my time. Wow, how sad is that? I think many people view waiting as a waste of time. How dare we have 2-3 hours in a row where we can just BE.

So, what does it really mean to wait, to wait on God? I think of it as following God’s promptings, and being present in each moment. Waiting on God photo by Brian Day, Monterosso Italy

The rub is, our culture and sadly many of our church cultures say do, do, do, that will show our success, our worth, and our significance. However, God says, Remain in Me, Rest in Me, Wait on Me, Trust Me, Listen for My voice, just BE you, that amazing person that I created.

So how do we wait, follow God’s promptings, and stay in the present moment?

In my last post I talked about letting go, being unattached. I think waiting, being present in each moment to follow God’s promptings is intertwined with letting go.

Here’s a true story, simple yet pretty amazing to me. It was November of last year, I had been talking to God about direction, and to show me clearly what that was. Of course, I was thinking big things, like my career or moving overseas, or something outrageous. I was putting my box around it, defining what I though it might look like.

So what do I hear? Crochet hats… Yep, you heard me right, crochet hats. I discounted it thinking it was just me trying to think of Christmas gift ideas. But the words kept coming back and oddly enough I was feeling really motivated to do it. The thought of going to the store and finding some fun yarn sounded exciting.

Then the thoughts came, you know the ones… Thoughts like, you don’t know how to crochet hats, who are you going to give them to, no one you know really wears hats. You don’t have the money to buy yarn, you don’t have the time, etc, etc. Thank God, the feeling of excitement the motivation outweighed the thoughts.

I wanted to crochet many hats, like 5 or 10. Again, thoughts ran across my mind, you are crazy, this is ridiculous to spend the time and money to crochet when you don’t even know why you are doing it. I thought, well half the time I feel crazy anyway, so why not go for it.

I went and bought some yarn, now to figure out how to create a hat. I did know how to crochet, so that was a bonus. I met with a friend and told her what I was doing, my friends love that I’m a little off kilter. She said, oh I’ve been wanting to learn and my daughter knows how to crochet hats. Hmmm, who knew! 🙂  Another friend said, “I have some yarn I’ll give you!”  I love it that God cares about the details.Waiting blog post www.pathsofdiscoverylifecoaching

I had made about 4 hats, when I got an email from a friend (I’ll call her Trish for confidentiality sake) who is in China . She wanted to put together a gift set full of hats, scarves, blankets, for some of the students that she and her husband works with.

I told her how God was prompting me to crochet hats but didn’t know why or for whom. I wondered if she would want these hats. She said yes, I’d like to have them by Christmas.  As we discussed logistics, – getting them there in time, shipping them, etc. it started to feel like it wasn’t’ going to happen. She said, “let’s keep waiting and talking to God about it. If it doesn’t work for the students Christmas gifts, I’ll give the hats to the beggars on the streets.”

I noticed that I had a familiar feeling inside (here comes the lesson in letting go/ being unattached again) of not really wanting the hats to go to beggars. I really wanted the students to have them. I started trying to figure out how I could get them there in time etc.

I realized at that moment I was allowing myself to be attached, and I wasn’t staying in the present moment. I was taking control, looking towards the future and how I could make it all happen.

Then I heard God’s voice, “this project wasn’t mine to begin with, but His.” I thought about that and I knew I needed to trust, and let it go so it could be completed in His way. I told Trish that I wasn’t attached to who the hats went to, and that I would continue to crochet and wait.

A few weeks later Trish wrote and said,” I know where your hats are going!” She had just met a lady that is developing relationships with prostitutes there in her town. She is there showing them unconditional love and care.

Side note: For those of you who don’t know, many girls in other countries are sold into sexual slavery. Many times, they have no alternative because they don’t have the education to get a job, or the means to get the education. Check out this link for an amazing organization that is helping these girls get out of slavery. 

Back to the story… the lady who works with these girls told Trish, that she wanted to put a care package together and the hats would be an incredible gift for them! We didn’t even have to worry about the logistics, it was all taken care of.

This was several months ago. Yesterday I got an email from Trish with a picture attached. The picture was of several beautiful girls (oh they were so young it broke my heart) all cuddled together holding up peace signs with their hands. Guess what was on their heads, the crotched hats! I wish I could show you this precious picture, but for their protection, I am not able to.

So what’s the moral of this crazy story? Give yourself permission to slow your mind, your life down so you can hear the very important things that God wants to do in your life.

Listen, wait, follow His prompting, stay in the moment and let go of the outcome. Our lives are a much bigger picture than the boxes we keep around them. We can be used in ways we have never thought or dreamed of, if we will trust and realize that God is working not only in our lives but also globally, and it takes our lives to touch someone that we might not even know.

What stories would you be willing to share that relates to waiting, following God’s promptings and being present in the moment?

What challenges do you have with waiting, letting go, or hearing God’s voice?

Would love to hear your thoughts.

Until next time,



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How to learn and put into practice the lesson of letting go, that’s been a theme running through my life this past year.  Being unattached from things, people, situations, even my own fears and thoughts. Release… 

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I think I held on so tightly for so many years, that I became unconscious of it.   Yet, I always wondered why I felt so crazy; all those thoughts racing through my head making my body feel all wired and nutty. Running around doing things that distracted me, when all I really desired was to feel needed, purposeful, at peace and more deeply connected with God.  I was just talking with a friend this morning that is in this same process.  Can you relate too?

So how does letting go, being unattached help me in my Spiritual life and every day life?  How do they connect?  I mentioned in my last post about God getting my attention this past summer.  All I knew is that I had to stop what I was doing.  “STOP THE MADNESS!” Stop the striving, the anxiety, the stress, stop building the box that was crushing me.  All I could hear was wait, (stop), surrender, let go, trust Me (God).  So I did, not having a clue what it was really about, nor what the “end result” was going to be. 

What did “stopping the madness” do for me?  Well for one, it gave me a LOT of space in my physical and mental environment.  Also, much more time, so much so that it sometimes felt overwhelming.  By allowing and accepting it, and not running off to find a distraction, it deepened my relationship with God, and others.  It quieted my spirit. 

One by one, God showed me things I was attached to.  Things, thoughts and feelings that kept me anxious, things that kept me in that crazy mode, that box.  It’s like I had chains around me, wrapped around my entire body.  They were heavy, and that’s what my life felt like, heavy and constricted. 

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”  Matthew 11:28-30 NIV.

Things like my career, material things, things I felt that I “should” be doing and ways that I “should” be doing them.  Of course, they needed to be just right.  I’m pretty sure they call that perfectionism.  Then came the hard stuff, facing my fears.  Loneliness, failure, lack of money, lack of confidence, and the possibility of loosing people I love. 

Looking back, I see that God was and still is, stripping away the stuff that is holding me back from living more fully in His design. It reminds me of stripping wallpaper.  It’s not too hard to take off the top layer, but getting all the backing, the white paper underneath, is another story. It sometimes comes off in tiny strips.

As they say, life is a journey, a process.  It also takes a lot of practice, forgiveness of others and ourselves, and courage to step into change, into a new way of being.  I’m still practicing, that is what the painting  above, is about, that is what these words are about.

Practicing, releasing my attachment to how it “should” look and being grateful for the inspiration that came through the process of creating it, and now letting it go out to the world. 

Of course, I have to wonder, how come it always looks so different in my head than on paper?  I see that my personal “filter” is still very judgmental, I’m working on that.  As my friend Pepper says, “It’s not mine to begin with, it’s Gods.  It’s all God and it’s all perfect.”  Thanks for the reminder and the challenge Pepper.

In what areas of your life is God asking you to let go of and trust Him? 

How are you dealing with the fears and anxiety that come with letting go?

What do you do to practice releasing your attachment? 

Would love to hear your thoughts. 

Until next time, 



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